If your doctor told you that you’re infertile, you’ve most likely been hypnotized. Talking to authority figures feels like the end-all. They went to medical school for ten years. They must know what they’re talking about, right?
The same goes for hearing you’re infertile from people that you love. Opinions of family and friends can mean so much to us. If your Mom or Aunt tells you that it’ll be a difficult journey, we start to believe them. Yet, believing others can ruin your chances of getting pregnant.
Why is this so? Your mind hears thoughts. And your mind has the power to choose to either accept those thoughts or not. So whatever you believe about your conception right now, your body will naturally follow its direction.
Let me reframe: If you believe that you’re infertile, you will be.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines belief as a “state or habit of the mind in which trust or confidence is placed in some person or thing.” So it’s no surprise that if you hear over and over, whether from your doctor, friends or relatives, that getting pregnant will be difficult, it actually does become more difficult; because now it becomes a deep-seeded belief in your subconscious. And whether you have that thought consciously or subconsciously, the body still takes direction from it.
My doctor told me that it was going to be difficult to get pregnant. That was tough to swallow. Hearing this message from a doctor sent shivers down my spine and a knot in my stomach. It created so much stress and anxiety for me. If you’ve been told you can’t conceive, perhaps you’re feeling upside down too. Being that I was almost 40 was a red flag for the doctors, yet I knew I had a chance.
At first, I felt like I had to accept the diagnosis of “unexplained infertility;” then I thought, there’s got to be another way. There are miraculous reports of people who have healed themselves from cancer by only using the power of their mind. I decided it was time to believe in something different – that I certainly could change my thoughts to alter my outcome.
Think about the fight or flight response. If a bear is chasing us, blood flows away from our thinking brain and down into our arms and legs to give us more power to run away, to get away from danger. This causes much stress in the body and causes your cortisol levels to naturally rise. When your body is in this state, it’s not open to getting pregnant, but only open to coping and getting out of the way of danger. Stress never helps you to conceive, it only discourages it.
Although we may not encounter a bear chasing us in our every day life, we have many other daily stresses that inhibit us, such as being in traffic and running late for work, paying our bills, or worse, losing the confidence in our body to naturally conceive.
Now, when you’re more relaxed about trying to conceive, you produce more of the feel-good neurotransmitters like serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin and endorphins. These instead help to support your body to receiving a baby, enabling your mindset and energy to become lighter and more open to conception.
Anyone dealing with infertility will say it’s a rollercoaster ride. One minute, you’re hopeful. The next, you’re inconsolable. Most of my work with clients has to do with de-hypnotizing them from what they’ve been told. If you’d like to talk about what the doctor told you, text me now @ 732-615-8368.
A Conception Conversation with me is complimentary, and will help you bust through any labels you’ve been given. Let’s start connecting and replacing those beliefs that no longer serve you, with ones that do.
Love & Hope,